Pastor reaches out to young adults using social media

April 27, 2022 | People | Volume 26 Issue 9
Jessica Evans | Alberta Correspondent
Didsbury, Alta.
Members of the ‘40 Minutes’ group include Pastor Anna-Lisa Salo, top left, Danika Peters, Cassidy Brown, Taylor Derksen and Dayna Goerzen. (Screenshot by Anna-Lisa Salo)

Anna-Lisa Salo, pastor of Bergthal Mennonite Church in Didsbury, has taken advantage of Zoom’s free 40 minute limit. Two years ago, she reached out to four young women from her congregation who were heading off to post-secondary institutions.

As it was during the beginning of the pandemic, Salo says she felt like she had lost an opportunity to connect with them: “I never had any real quality time with them other than a ‘Hello’ and ‘How are you?’ on Sunday morning.”

She decided to reach out to the four in an attempt to get to know them better. With the knowledge that young adults are tech literate, she started by asking if they would like to check in once a week for 40 minutes, as she didn’t have a Zoom account with unlimited time. Not entirely convinced that they would agree, she was surprised at the resounding “yes.”

The gatherings started on Tuesday evenings, beginning with the Prayer of Examen, a spiritual practice of reviewing the day, to retune the group to the sacred in ordinary life. Usually lasting 15 to 20 minutes, and practised in the evening, the prayer prompts individuals and groups to remember God’s presence, express gratitude, reflect on the day and prepare for the day to come.

Salo asked two important questions of her group each evening:

  • For what are you most grateful?
  • For what are you least grateful?

She did not place any obligations on the participants to continue but, as trust was built between the five, they insisted and the group continues to meet every week. Topics range from school, marriage and death, and everything in between.

The women started out as students; now they have jobs, are getting married and starting families. The group spoke of the joys and challenges that young adults face in life, asking questions, venting, listening, wondering, sharing and supporting one another.

“In our conversations, there is nothing off the table,” Salo says. “Now I have a deeper relationship with them.”

The virtual meetings became a safe space for the women to discuss whatever was on their minds and in their hearts without the threat of being judged. They said to Salo, “We never felt free to talk about this in a church setting.”

Salo has a background working with young adults, so this group was a labour of love: “I love working with young adults, the fact that they are wide open and not afraid. It energizes me and gives me life.”

She began the group as a facilitator, not directing the conversation to any particular topic. “I knew it was working when I didn’t initiate, and there was care beyond Tuesday evening,” says Salo, who noticed the women reaching out to one another outside the group.

For those congregations that might want to replicate this model, Salo has some suggestions, based on her experience:

  • In order to determine whether a group can be created, pastors or staff should first contact young adults and ask whether they are interested.
  • Setting a time limit, like 40 minutes, is more productive; otherwise the group loses focus. In Salo’s group, each participant shares for 10 minutes and they carry on in the next session.
  • Beyond sharing, Salo suggests asking open-ended questions and being succinct in what is said. “Good communication sometimes requires stepping out and taking a risk, trying something new, and then sitting back and watching God grow a new community into being,” she says.
  • “Do not be afraid and think of it as a growing edge for you as a pastor,” says Salo, also suggesting that facilitators step back as an authority figure and resist “teachable moments.”
  • “Holding space” for the group by being physically, mentally and emotionally present for the participants is also important. Salo suggests being sensitive to the needs of the moment, listening well and focusing on one person at a time, if needed.

“Ultimately, have love and respect for one another and ask that they dig deep into their soul and spirit,” says Salo. “It’s a fine dance and I think it’s really needed. There has been a gamut of emotions that we have shared. We share deeply from the heart, and I will do this as long as they wish, until it has served its purpose.” 

This article appears in the May 2, 2022 print issue, with the headline “40 minutes.” Do you have a story idea about Mennonites in Alberta? Send it to Jessica Evans at

Members of the ‘40 Minutes’ group include Pastor Anna-Lisa Salo, top left, Danika Peters, Cassidy Brown, Taylor Derksen and Dayna Goerzen. (Screenshot by Anna-Lisa Salo)

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