1. How is the role of women understood in your congregation? Are women taught to be subservient and submissive? Are women given proper respect? Why might submissive women be more vulnerable to emotional abuse? What do you understand to be Paul’s message in Ephesians 5:22-33?
2. What factors provide power in sibling or spousal relationships? Under what circumstances can a sister or a wife hold more power than a brother or a husband? How does a healthy relationship negotiate a balance of power? Do you agree that abuse is about the misuse of power?
3. If someone in your congregation claimed to be a victim of abuse, how would the church respond? What would you do if you were suspicious that a fellow church member was abusing his or her spouse? At what point is it appropriate for the church to get involved? What might that involvement look like?
4. How can we teach our children to build good relationships? What can the church do to work at preventing abuse?
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